Well it isn't an official art but it feels like careful, detailed work, to not speak.There are times when I want to say something, direct someone, "help" them, but I'm learning to stay quiet. This isn't easy but it seems essential for the other person's success or failure, both being learning tools. I have many talents, I'm not boosting, we all have. I can do many things well but I have not done as well as I could when it comes to the art of being quiet. And yes people will fail different times and I feel as a leader it is my role to help them be successful.. but staying quiet at the right time is an art.
Another tactic I need to learn better is not to say what is in my mind when it goes to a place of concern. Example that just happened moments ago, maybe you can relate. Jenn comes in wearing a beautiful bracelet, one she's giving to her bridesmaids. We'll be with the girls today picking dresses for them. I say, "Oh you're wearing your bracelet. I didn't wear mine because I didn't think you'd want the girls to see it."
In trying to dissect this I think it's just about not going "there". Not going to a place that plants a negative. I think that explains it. And when that thought comes up maybe saying to myself, yourself.. "cancel". I share such things knowing I am not alone in this and hoping you can learn along with me.
Pic.. This is how I feel every time I master the Art of Being Quiet!
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